Friendship

The interview below got me thinking about what I want in a friendship.
I’ve not put my conscious mind to it in ages…
Mitchell is by far my best friend and he is also my loverman… and a man…
not that being a man is a negative in my book of friends.
In fact, I’ve been betrayed by far more women than men very.
Only women have betrayed me in business.
Men have disappointed me in business but not betrayed.

Morning write to clear energy, back to topic.  What I want in a friendship…

Humor.  A wicked laugh.
No fear of intimacy.
Willingness to speak up and speak truth.  (Very hard to find.)
Fearlessness, no, but moving past fears, or courage.
Attending to our friendship, and giving as good as I give,
though not necessarily the same way.
Caring enough to clear up misunderstandings.  They happen.
Ability to reflect and a willingness to tell me what’s so about me when needed.
Compassionately, though not necessarily nicely.  She’s not “nice”.
The willingness to get into trouble was when I was younger, and perhaps I have less inclination to that now since trouble usually involved men and a train or a plane,
and I am oh-so-happy Sady-married-lady, but still, a wickedness.
FEW women have that who are not actually dangerous.
Gives more lip service to putting our planet first…
Has a strong spiritual path though not necessarily mine.

The last two are new to me…

Also, I usually have fallen in love with my friends a little when I met them.
Not like falling hard for a lover,
but there is an undeniable attraction that is akin to falling in love.

I have not felt that in forever!

What do you value in friendship?

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what is two hours out of your life?

its been a surprising two days.
i was hit by a mack truck emotionally — NOT by my husband
but someone who i was in a committed relationship with, a friendship.

i was told that my angry emotions were unacceptable —
whoops i’m not angry but sad, so sad…
expecting loss, and so in a fearful place about the outcome of the meeting —
and btw, not yelling or anything, but i do have a clear loud
voice — no one would ever say i was soft-spoken — i own THAT…
i was told she didn’t want to hear what i had to say so
i walked away and into my next meeting.

what do you do with that?

then a friend sent me this for no reason as i was waiting for the meeting:

i mean, wow… went through me… talk about synchronicity!

the upshot of the day today was an ending to that relationship.
it is an odd thing because i gave her responses i would have liked from her
that she didn’t like,
but at least they were an acknowledgement of her explanations…
understanding why she did what she did gave me the ability to not be mad
about THAT anymore… so that part of my annoyance was over.
i didn’t require her to be different in her emotional makeup while dealing with her discomfort.. she got loud and annoyed and all that.  can’t say i liked it but i am willing to put in a few hours of discomfort for a relationship.
she was not willing to put up with a couple of hours of discomfort to get through to a different side of things, to let us both understand why we did what we did.
even when i said just that to her — what is two hours out of your life?
i heard her say why she did it and gave her that,
asking her not to do that again though… i prefer talking about things face to face.
my feelings were not alright though, not logical, inappropriate
not interested in hearing that i was hurt, scared of loss, etc.

i would allow a lot of latitude in a difficult situation for someone i cared deeply about,
and perhaps she never cared, so the friendship was not a two-way street.
as long as there was no physical abuse and no over the top screaming…
a certain sense of boundaries (like give me ten minutes to collect myself)
hurt requires some response other than logic.
people can unwind the discomfort of an uncomfortable conversation later,
but we can’t come back from, “i don’t want to know you anymore.”

i am not used to women especially not responding with some sort of
acknowledgment when someone says, “my feelings were so hurt.”
no offense to men, and my man is very willing to hear feelings.

so that’s what she did,
walked out of the conversation unwilling to say she cared about my hurt feelings,
unwilling to hear what behavior upset me…
it is MY upset and i even told her i didn’t blame her for my day yesterday…
(my mac was unresponsive in a deadline — it got cleared today).
she would not tell me what behavior she sees as anger so i can understand
how that works for her (some people are sensitive to energy in any form)
she saw anger in my initial response
it was hurt lots of hurt, and impending loss… all true.
i was very confused even after reflection,
and i am pretty good at seeing when i’ve been an ass!

lots of practice.

here we are, about to hit the Full Moon,
letting go, letting go, letting go…

why tell you all this?
because, like brene brown says, our stories have value

btw, the new moon tonight is about letting go of the monkeymind!

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WATWB: Love Can Change the World

This article on the Lovings, married in 1958,
speaks to how love can change the world.
May we all be free to love whom we like.

The Lovings: An Intimate Portrait by photographer Grey Villet, text by Barbara Villet and foreword by Stephen Crowley, is published by Princeton Architectural Press, £16.99

My post for positivity for We Are the World Blogfest begins with love.
Come join us!

There are more stories like this out there.
You simply have to open your eyes and heart.

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Reframing the negativity…

There are those who may not understand this,
but it is a unique way of turning coal into diamonds.
I’ve edited to give you where he is going with this and
encourage you to read his short post
.

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My Thank You Note to President Trump

Mr. President, I did not vote for you and I never thought I would be saying this but I owe you a debt of gratitude…

… You have challenged me to be and do better. The violence in your words and actions have been a mirror before me. I do not like what I see. I do not want to be what I see. I may not have said or done many of the things you have; that, however, is not an excuse or justification for the violence that does inhabit some of my thoughts, words, and actions. In that regard, maybe we are not so different.

Regardless of what may come of the rest of your presidency, I consider it a success at least in terms of what you have done for me. You have awakened me to see more clearly the reality of violence and darkness that lives not only in America but in the human heart, my heart included….[more]

Your presidency has led me to create my own cabinet of advisers, a cabinet of nonviolence. I have chosen Fr. John Dear, Fr. Thomas Merton, Dorothy Day, Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr, and Mahatma Gandhi to advise, teach, chastise, and disarm my heart. Needless to say the Prince of Peace will head my cabinet. I am reading, listening, studying, and praying. I have chosen my way forward…..

Read more by clicking to  My Thank You Note to President Trump.

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Announcing We Are The World Blogfest!

Will you speak for peace? 

Social media and news in recent times has been filled with hate and negativity.
Just as you cannot fight darkness, only light lamps, hate and negativity cannot be fought. We will bring love and happiness forward, creating an oasis!

z-banner-520-x120-whiteAnnouncing We Are The World Blogfest

We Are the World Blogfest” seeks to promote positive news.
There are stories of love and light and compassion and the resilience of the human spirit. Sharing these stories increases our awareness of hope in our increasingly dark world.
You can share one you’ve read or tell one you witnessed!

Our co-hosts who will follow and assist:
Belinda WitzenhausenCarol Walsh,
Chrissie Parker, Damyanti Biswas,
Emerald BarnesEric Lahti,
Inderpreet Kaur Uppal, Lynn Hallbrooks,
Mary Giese, Michelle Wallace,
Peter NenaRoshan Radhakrishnan,
  Simon FalkSusan Scott,
Sylvia SteinSylvia McGrath,
and of course, myself!

We will link to charities supported by the co-hosts,
and you could choose to donate to some of them or
add links to local charities you support
,
so we could all chip in to a good cause if we like.

Let us flood social media with peace and love, and “In Darkness, Be Light.
The first post for We Are The World Blogfest is 31st March 2017
Hashtag
#WATWB

~~~GUIDELINES~~~

  1. The blogfest takes place the last Friday of each month.
  2. It is suggested that you keep your post to around 500 words so many can be visited.
  3. You can link to a human news story, one that shows love, humanity, and brotherhood. Something like this news, about a man who only fosters terminally ill children.  Or tell/sketch one of your own!
  4. Share news that warms the cockles of your heart. No story is too big or small!  Think of stories that show compassion, neighborliness, caring, sweetness — into the core of humanity.
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  6. Help us spread the word on social media: Tweets, Facebook shares, G+ shares using the #WATWB hashtag through the month are welcome. More Blogfest signups mean more friends, love and light for all of us.
  7. We’ll read and comment on each others’ posts, get to know each other better, and hopefully, make or renew some friendships with everyone who signs on as participants in the coming months.

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Sketchbook Project: Fear and Hope, Deportation

I am participating in the Sketchbook Project this year.
This year is that they have assigned topics.
You choose FEAR or HOPE.
Being a creative type I picked one but am not following it.
I am doing Fear AND Hope.
Because of what is happening in our country, because of my nightmares
(real, not metaphorically),  because of the immense grief I am feeling
when I read ANYTHING these days in the political news, I decided to take this on.
If there is anything I know as a journaler of 40 years  it is
the very best way to get through something is to
write about it, paint it, or
stand on a street corner and tell the story (which in this climate will get you arrested)…
which brings us to one of the reasons I need to write about Fear and Hope.

So I start, and see where this takes me….
Let’s see if I can get to the hope by starting with the fear….

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Concurrently, I am also one of 20 hosts of a blog challenge
(to be announced in a few days)
which is the antidote to my FEAR writing/painting exercise,
and I hope you all decide to join me once a month in that… drum-roll to come.

A note about Sketchbook Project:  I wanted to join once before and
after paying my money and getting their idea of a sketchbook I returned it.
For the price I think they should give you the option of lined and unlined books
(it is called the SKETCHBOOK Project not the JOURNAL Project),
and AT LEAST paper where every dang page doesn’t bleed through.
So that is my disclaimer… BAD paper, and I was willing this time because
it is journaling and I want to be part of a national conversation.

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Sadness and Depression

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